Dating

This week in my class we have been learning a lot about dating and preparation for marriage. We spent a lot of time learning about how dating has changed over the years.  The difference between dating and courting is something that we have lost over the years that I think our culture desperately needs to get back. We use to go on dates (with many of the same people at once), start courting (our dating now days), engagement and marriage. Our culture use to spend a lot of time in the first stage and quite a bit of time on the second stage. Then fairly little time on the second two stages. My generation does almost the exact opposite. We spend very little time dating, sometimes we don’t even spend any time dating. Instead we just hang out for a few weeks. We become couples really quick after we meet. We then get engaged fairly fast. Then before we now it we are married and all of these problems arise. This is because people really don’t know who they have married and what to expect. We also haven’t learned what it is like to be really committed to each other. There is a reason that the prophet and apostles keep telling us to date more. Now all we need to do is listen.       

Gender Roles

This week in class we learned about gender roles and the differences between men and women. Historical men when out and provided for the family and the women took care of the children. Ours is the first generation to ever question this typical family system. Now days our world says that man and women are the same. More women then ever are entering the workforce. The world says that they are just as capable and that we need more equality. If you say that a women should stay home and take care of the kids you are called old fashion and even prejudice. After all we are all the same. Aren't we? But the research does seem to agree. There is a whole bunch of research that seems to say that we are different. In this research it seems to say that women are better of taking care of kids and men are better suited for going to work and providing. This researchers almost seem scared to tell people of there findings, because the don't want to be seen as someone who is prejudices. There is something that people tend to over look. What people need to realize is that maybe are ancestors got it right. After all the had been doing it for centuries. Don't you think that if it didn't work then people would have changed the family systems centuries ago. People don't seem to think ever think that if we did change then the change could be bad. Or maybe that it is Satan plan to take the women out of the home so that we there is nobody left to take care of the children.      

Social Classes

This week in class we were learning about different social classes. I didn’t realize before how many classes there actually were in the United States. It almost found it silly how much energy and effect they put into an appearances. Some of them spent so much time and effort into putting on this __. They made it seem like they had all of this money even though they didn’t. It so silly and I even felt really bad for them. I also was thinking if I ever do the exacted same thing and don’t realize it. It makes everything worldly in the earth that we do seem so silly in the eternal scene of things. I think that we all need to spend more time on how we are and how we can improve as a person and how we can help other people instead of spending so much time on are “status” of the world.   

America's Family Systems

This week in my Family 160 class we learned about Family systems and Family Mapping. We also spent learning about roles within the family. With so much divorce in the world I was about how you would do a family map. Then the kids have two people telling them what to do and the parents aren’t even talking. Then if their parents get remarried then they have a couple of other people telling them what to do. This can be very confusing and hard for children. They can a lot of times become a lot closer to one of their parents. Sometimes even disliking or distrusting the other parents. This can almost create two families instead of one. Also if children have a hard time with contention they can talk up the peace maker role, where they spend their entire life trying to make the two families get along and work as one. This is very hard and confusing a children. If you are wondering why it is that some of these young adults aren’t getting married I think that this has a lot of impact on that idea. Why would someone want to get married and start a whole other family, when the “two” families that they already have aren’t getting along or working.